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Breaking the spell of “perfection” and “failure”

Published over 1 year ago • 1 min read

Perfection

Failure

These absolutes can be devastating to our sense of identity if we hold too tightly.

Play can be a powerful way to shift our internal spaces.

In my podcast discussion this week with brain coach, Jocelyn Brady, she suggests changing the mental script to…

“What did I learn?”

There is also a power in shifting this frame for others - instead of putting someone on a pedestal because we admire them - or banishing them because we don’t - engaging in play allows both of us to change.

This has been one of the amazing conversations I’ve had this year in exploring how to re-define “play” for professional spaces. Because, let’s face it, “play” comes with all sorts of connotations, not all of which are wanted when we are confronting the serious issues of our time as adults.

The pillars for my work remain “Stillness, Creativity, Community - and a dash of Play” - I’ve just found that right now, the play needs a bit more defining.

Jocelyn brings such delight to any conversation, AND she is a brilliant and serious thinker. I loved that our conversation on the podcast could include both a penguin suit and “deathbed you,” because a bit of playfulness can actually help us with the really serious things in our lives.

So, where could you let go of perfectionism or fear of failure, and instead play to learn this week?

Mary

In case you missed it - I’m sharing a series of conversations in a podcast this summer. If it inspires thoughts, questions, or suggestions of other people to interview, please let me know! I’d love to hear your thoughts.



Move with Grace

Mary Hendra brings curiosity, creativity, and compassion to individuals and teams through Move with Grace. Redefining “play” for the modern, busy adult, her workshops and cohort programs foster self-reflection and build clarity so that you can take action.

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